Maybe try talking to him about it when you two aren’t already heated. Tell him that you don’t know why you get this way and you don’t mean to, it just happens. He needs to know that you aren’t doing it because you want to, but because it keeps happening. Being able to have a reasonable discussion about it when both of you are calm can really help when you two do start to get into it.
I would also suggest for you to maybe think about what you are going to say before you say it to him. When my guy was gone both of us would say things without thinking about it and it caused a lot of issues. Being aware of what you are about to say may really help.
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